The Birthday Girl

You will have to indulge me with my next few posts because they are for the grandparents to see the happenings of Haddie’s birthday party.

And also for me. I can’t remember what I ate for lunch yesterday, let alone parties from years past. Anything I do not record is forever lost in my cranial void.

For the first time ever, I read some of Haddie’s letters to her and I am so glad to have made that record the past several years. She grinned with delight, laughed at the various pictures and marveled at my writing, “Wow, Mommy. You sure use juicy words!”

I’d like that on my tombstone.

But anyhew, back to my grandparent indulgence. Haddie’s seventh birthday started out with a bang that included her favorite breakfast on the “You Are Special Plate” (raspberries, bacon and Einstein Bros. Bagel Poppers), a surprise lunchroom visit from me to deliver a piece of birthday cake….


….a picture with the uncooperative cat and a family dinner at Chuck E. Cheese.

Some of these things were obviously much better than the others.

I’m not one to go overboard on birthday presents but I did this year because she was in dire need of some items like a new bedspread, craft supplies and clothes.

Hadley also went crazy for her new Chameleon Crocs. I was sent a pair for each child to review at Mile High Mamas but never imagined what a huge hit they would be. The reason? They change color when exposed to the sunlight.

I feel seriously gypped Crocs doesn’t make them in adult sizes.

Aunt Lisa and Uncle Chris bought her a new cooking set (important for an aspiring Casa Bonita chef), my parents bought her a new outfit and her first watch (note to self: teach her to tell time) and Grandma Johnson got her an amazing easel from IKEA. Hadley has transformed her room into an art studio and is so inspired she is planning a curbside “Art Stand” to sell her treasures.

And so it begins.

Redemption on Memorial Day

We had a gloriously low-key Memorial Day, the highlight of which was attending our ward’s Memorial Day picnic at a private lake. Conditions were really windy (thus summarizing our entire spring in Colorado) but we decided to take the kids for a ride in the canoe.

Now, let me preface this by saying our last adventure in a canoe a few years ago did not end well. In fact, I had a good chuckle reminiscing about Camping, Capsizing and Crying (all in a weekend at play).

Not-so chuckle-worthy? The addendum at the bottom of that post about my near-nervous breakdown.

But I am proud to say we did not come even close to capsizing this time around and I was thrilled to see how far we’ve come.

At least until our next attempt at camping this summer.

This would have been our fourth camera in three years

Me: “Hey, I found the camera!”

Jamie: “IT WAS MISSING?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Me: “Umm no, why do you ask?”

Are today’s grade-school “graduations” celebrating mediocrity?

I had no idea my innocent (and brief) Facebook post yesterday would result in a deluge of valued comments from my friends and motivate me to write a blog post.

But that is exactly what happened.

I’m all about celebrating milestones. Births, deaths, birthdays, holidays–I’m your gal. However, there is a trend in our schools that disturbs me: the graduation ceremony.Link

Twelfth grade, college and even 8th grade Continuations should be lauded affairs, a recognition of many years of hard work. I have fond memories of my senior year revelries as my dear friends and I celebrated our journey together and toasted our future.

Now, can someone please tell me where preschool, kindergarten, grade-school et al. “graduations” fit into this formula?

Rites of passage are important and I don’t want to diminish recognizing that a child is moving from one grade to another. But it was when a friend sent a picture of his (albeit darling) kindergartner in her cap and gown that I couldn’t help but think, “REALLY?”

And I remembered this exchange from The Incredibles that has always resonated with me:

Helen: I can’t believe you don’t want to go to your own son’s graduation.
Bob: It’s not a graduation. He is moving from the 4th grade to the 5th grade.
Helen: It’s a ceremony!
Bob: It’s psychotic! They keep creating new ways to celebrate mediocrity, but if someone is genuinely exceptional…

I don’t want to be Debbie Downer here. I’m all about throwing a party and having an academic ceremony to recognize the children’s achievements. When I was younger, I was a smart and athletic kid who cleaned up on the awards every year. My children are still young and have shown different aptitudes but they likely won’t be class valedictorians.

And that’s OK.

As a parent, I’m trying not to dilute the achievements of the overachievers by making everyone a winner. I’ve seen this a lot in my children’s sporting leagues. Yes, young children should have positive reinforcements but continuing with this pattern so as not to hurt their feelings is not teaching life lessons. There are winners and losers and the most important thing is how you are taught to play the game.

I truly mourn for children who do not have support at home but am in awe of engaged teachers and mentors. I hope I’m instilling in my children a strong work ethic and a life-long love of learning with the resolve to stay in school.

But if they need a ceremony with a cap and a gown to stay motivated, maybe we’re doing something wrong.

(Originally published at MileHighMamas).

Happy 7th Birthday Letter to Hurricane Hadley

Hadley,

I find it amazing that Aunt Tammy’s twin toddlers have swapped personalities several times since they’ve been born. You, on the other hand, have been a constant from day 1 (well, as constant as a Hurricane could be). Always spirited, ever stubborn, forever fun, unceasingly vocal and frequently frustrated with limitations placed upon you when conquering your world.

No wonder you were such an irascible newborn; who could blame you when you couldn’t even scratch the top of your own head?

You successfully completed first grade and have grown a lot this year. You’ve improved leaps and bounds in your reading, and love (in this order): art, gym and music. Your best friend in class is a darling red-head named Cameron who’s one of the smartest and cutest boys in class.

Thus far, I approve of your choice in men.

You’re a great swimmer, an accomplished artist and are excited for your week-long art camp this summer. In fact, you’ve already surpassed Mommy with your drawings. Disclaimer: It doesn’t take much.

Participating in Destination Imagination was another highlight because it combined some of your very best talents: Imaginative play, bossing people around being a leader and performing for a crowd.

Though you’re still bitter you performed in an uninspired classroom and not on the stage for the world to see.

While other girls are wasting away playing Barbies and other feminine fluff, you spend hours, days conjuring up worlds and parties for your many stuffed animals and Fat Kitty. You talk often of what you want to do when you grow up. Sometimes, you’re a veterinarian. Other times you are a crazy cat lady run a cat hotel. You’ve recently become passionate about cooking and aspire to be a chef at Casa Bonita.

Locals will understand just how uninspiring that ambition is.

You’re already an intrepid traveler and are counting down the days until you ride the plane by yourself to see Grandma J. this summer. We took multiple ski trips and you conquered the intermediate runs at Park City Mountain Resort, Telluride, Echo Mountain and Crested Butte.

You’re always looking for new adventures and absolutely loved Disneyland, your Disney Cruise to Cabo San Lucas and Puerto Vallarta and our mommy-daughter trip to Puerto Rico.

Basically, your life does not suck.

A couple of my favorite memories occurred in Puerto Rico. We failed miserably at flying kites on El Morro’s expansive bluff overlooking the ocean but on our final night, we stood on the Marriott’s wind-whipped balcony. At that raw hour, it was tough to distinguish ocean from sky and the reflection from the hotel’s white lights pierced the ocean’s black. Our 20-story perch almost seemed to shake but then I realized it was just the air vibrating.

An idea took flight.

I grabbed our grounded kite and hurled it into the void. It dropped out of sight and then, almost as if it was mustering up courage, it swooped higher and higher. You squealed with delight as we marveled at the kite that had finally taken flight to sketch our good-byes in the sky.

I’m sure the hotel staff had differing opinions on our contraband kite-flying activities.

In the evenings at the San Juan Marriott, you loved to hit the dance floor. You’ve inherited my lack of rhythm but that did not hold you back. Hair and arms flailing, you rocked out to the music, causing everyone around you to stop and marvel.

Another mom on the trip tried to urge her insecure daughter to join you. “But I can never look as good as Hadley out there!” she protested. I looked at her incredulously. She obviously wasn’t really seeing you.

Or was she?

Through her eyes, you were a self-confident, hilarious and fearless girl who didn’t care what you looked like or what anyone thought of you. You were simply lost in the moment and living it to the very fullest you knew how. This quality is one of the things that makes you special…and unstoppable. Whether you someday become a “chef” at Casa Bonita or if you’re dancing by yourself, one thing is certain:

You will always fly.

Love,
Mommy

P.S. For a stroll down memory lane, read letters for your 6, 5, 4, 3, or 2 birthdays.

A Picasso in the Making

This birthday week is all about Hadley (but if we want to be truly honest about it, our family’s lives pretty much revolve around our little spitfire most of the time.) Between field day today, birthday tomorrow, her birthday party on Thursday and a class field trip to the zoo on Friday, I told her it’s all downhill from here.

Gotta prep her for the fact that in a few years, her birthday will fall during final exams.

I’ve mentioned what a great artist she is. If I had one iota of time and motivation, I’d scan in some artistic renderings she’s done this year–truly impressive. When we were at our city’s library last winter we stumbled upon a painting she did of an abstract owl.


She was thrilled to be on display.

But on Sunday, she obtained a new level at stake conference (a two-hour, semi-annual meeting with all the church members in our area.) Normally I look forward to it but with Jamie out of town in Florida, I dreaded entertaining both kids by myself.

Fortunately, the kids were perfectly well-behaved and drew pictures the entire time. At the very end, I caught a glimpse of Hadley’s latest creation: A beautiful, intrinsically detailed temple in the background…with a big, fat cat taking up most of the foreground.

Because Fat Kitties are nothing if not celestial beings.

Unbeknownst to me, the couple behind us had been watching her progress. When the meeting was over, they begged me to scan in the funny picture so they could hang it on their fridge.

“I’ll do better than that,” I said as I ripped it out of the notebook and handed it to them.

We are not lacking in fat cat pictures at our house. (UNDERSTATEMENT.)

Shocked, Hadley watched the exchange but truly did not come to life until they turned and asked her, “Can you autograph this picture for us?”

I predict a life of incorrigibility after this one.

The Makings of a Fat Kitty Birthday Party

Hadley’s 7th birthday is on Wednesday. You know those moms who go over-the-top by over-planning their social event of the season everyone will rave about for years to come?

That is not me.

Don’t get me wrong: I love parties and between doing it personally and professionally for many years, I do a pretty good job. It’s just when it comes to children’s birthday parties, less is more.

A few years ago, a dear friend hired a professional party planner for her daughter’s birthday. The company did a marvelous job but guess what: the kids were 3 years old and could not have cared less. In the end–though I think most of us have good intentions–it’s our own needs that often get in the way of how the kids really want to celebrate.

Every year, I let my kids plan their theme around what they love best. For Hadley, it is her beloved Fat Kitty. For months, she has been formulating her games that will include a meowing contest, clean the kitty litter box (blindfolded with cotton balls & Tootsie roll poop) and musical chairs cat beds with the fun twist that the winner will actually be the first person out.

Fat Kitty ain’t exactly fast.

Most people would be thrilled to have a party in their honor but not him. Hadley declared he needed to be featured on her invitation and so we staged a photo shoot with various locations and costume changes.

Disclaimer: No animals were harmed in the making of this birthday card.

The same cannot be said for soon-to-be 7-year-old girls.

Maybe I should look into hiring a professional after all.

Race to the finish line

School is winding down and work is ramping up.

Never a good combination.

Bear with me the next couple of weeks as I juggle Jamie’s trip to Florida, Haddie’s birthday festivities, two field days, work meetings and my own travels back East.

Will balls get dropped?
You betcha.

P.S. Special thanks to my friend Stacey for sending this to me today. Talk about inspired. :)

Why you don’t want to be in our family

You may have seen those feel-good commercials produced by the Mormon church about the importance of family. We firmly believe family is central to God’s Plan of Happiness and I personally think the reason why we’ve seeing such a moral decay in society is the disintegration of the strong values instilled within the family unit. Families should be there to provide structure, support, balance and love in their children’s lives.

But there is another important role of the family that is seldom vocalized:

They should be there to help with you with all the crummy stuff like assisting with moves, painting and every other undesirable job that should never befall friends.

I think we should totally dedicate a commercial unto that.

As I previously mentioned, Jamie’s brother Chris moved back to Colorado last week. On Saturday after Bode’s soccer game we went to brunch and then Chris needed help unloading his moving truck. Jamie interjected he’d be happy to help but he needed to (what else?) work on The Great Pumpkin before it started raining.

By the time we finally arrived to help unload the truck, this is what we found.

‘Bout time that pumpkin came in handy. Welcome to the family, Great One.

Bode’s home stretch

With only two weeks left of school, Bode and I are enjoying our final afternoons together. While his sister slaves away in first grade, he and I have been biking to the skate park or have gone on fun adventures to check-out fossils at Dinosaur Ridge.

Yep, those are real dinosaur tracks behind Bode. Both of my kids are dinosaur-obsessed and marvel at being able to live so close to the shores of the Cretaceous Interior Seaway.

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Soccer season wrapped for the season on Saturday. Bode is a great little player and scored yet another goal. The highlight was when Uncle Chris made a surprise showing (he moved to Colorado from Utah this week).

OK, so maybe getting a trophy was pretty darn cool, too.

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Of course as avid fans of the Amazing Race, we had a viewing party for the finale (I’m still waiting for CBS to STOP THE CANUCK DISCRIMINATION so I can participate). By far, our favorite moments were when Zev and Justin (two very hairy dudes) had to get waxed for one of the challenges.

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OK, so maybe it was just Haddie’s (and my) favorite moment. She rewound it over and over again while cackling evilly. Poor Bode, on the other hand?


He despaired deeply for his fellow dudes.

One of the fun things about Twitter is it’s possible to connect with all kinds of people and the Amazing Race‘s Justin is on it (@justin_kanew). I tweeted that picture of poor Bode and was thrilled when Justin not only retweeted it but said how much he likes both Haddie (the evil cackler) and sympathetic Bode.

Justin doesn’t know it but he’s my “in” for getting on Amazing Race 19.